Dating or relationship when focusing on business full-on?
A lot of radically ambitious young entrepreneurs struggle to answer this question and more often than not – they conclude to stay alone.
No wonder. They want to put everything aside but their business, that is – wake up, gym, start working, finish 15 hours later to conceptualize the plan for tomorrow (in bed), fall asleep, occasionally invest 30 minutes of their time working on the Tinder/Messanger texting funnel to satisfy their physiological needs. Repeat.
This lifestyle means fewer distractions but as time goes, for some of them it might become less fulfilling.
They eventually come across somebody, who fills in that missing gap just to find themselves torn inside. They’re now torn between the full commitment to their business growth and the relationship that, as they perceive, pulls them away from achieving those, indeed, demanding goals.
(and when I say “demanding goals”, I’m not talking about digital nomads who want to make $2k per month or people who have jobs. I implying business goals of radically obsessed individuals who, at the time, are devoting the majority of their life to building an actual company).
Just like a lot of young guys (and girls) do, I struggled to manage my work obsession – relationship balance for years.
Here are some key pointers on what I’ve learned about the entrepreneurial-dating & relationship game over the last 4 years (from a workaholic geek’ perspective).
Money, money, money, it’s so funny… but “do you think about something deeper than business sometimes?” – a friend asked me. “I do” – I answered. “In fact, I do this all the time”. First, let me tell you why you think of entrepreneurs as cold robots. The reality is as follows: the creation of assembly-line like robotic workflows and particular due-diligence of our systems is our key responsibility, our craft, and the unpleasant duty behind the success. An achievement considered vaguely as “an entrepreneurial success” isn’t caused by some kind of enlightening discovery of cosmic laws (such as the law of attraction) or some genius idea that the universe presented to us. Rather than that, it appears to be an accurate implementation of processes that work and clarity combined with committed industriousness directed towards a quantified benchmark over a long period of time. This is why most of the successful entrepreneurs (not “magical” instant success startup dreamers), that you see – are systems obsessed on the surface. It doesn’t make us less spiritual or less “seeking”. Almost every wildly successful entrepreneur I know has a very deep spiritual life, full of questioning and explorative attitude, directed at areas that most people never even think of. Now with that being said, let me tell you this: I connect almost everything I do with what people call “higher-level concepts” and it swells my life with an incomparable sense of exploration every single day. At the same time, I have to be aware that a lot of those ideas, as exciting as they sound to me, are vague, squeed by our perception, oftentimes are logically debunkable myths and most often are just underlying principles and suggestions that we can think of and explore (but not always directly apply to business). In today’s video, I am sharing some of the vague concepts that I’m exploring, every day – not to share business advice, not really to prove that “I have inner life besides business” but simply to share them as interesting ideas to think of.
I hate exercising because it’s boring. Instead, I love eating the quadratisch, practich, ironically named – Ritter Sport milk chocolate. I also love drinking wine too (diluted in water, just like Romans did, but still…).
Anyhow, this is no good for me. Looking fat makes me look bad in videos and is generally speaking bad for business. Millennials aren’t looking for a fat alcoholic baron with a fat cigar to be their leader. They’re looking for a role model in business, health, and lifestyle.
The knight on a white horse is a slim, slightly muscular, tech-savvy, intellectual individualist who likes to meditate and experiment with smart drugs.
So I took some serious steps to lose weight but I realistically assessed how much will power am I able to invest in this process. Honestly – not much, because forcing myself to exercise drains my will power capacity quickly.
But playing Playstation doesn’t. So I got this home bicycle and I go on for 30 minutes after I wake up. That’s also what Jeff Bezos does after he wakes up – he claims to start the day with something he loves. For me, waking up with a thought that I don’t have to work right away but play my favorite game instead is genuinely motivating. Simple and effective.
Then I took some time to read books about losing weight and I wanted to summarize them in this post. I wouldn’t usually do that if I was to sell fitness coaching but since I don’t do it – I will share all the secrets with you.
Losing weight, just like most of the things comes down to the 80/20 rule where calories play the key role and everything else is extra.
Calories The simple equation to lose weight is to burn more calories than the number of calories you consume.
You consume calories with food and drink. You lose calories automatically (just because you’re alive), when you move and when you exercise.
The trick is to calculate how many calories you burn per day vs how many you consume so that you end up with a calorie deficit.
If you’re on a daily deficit of 1000 calories, then within a week you’re on a deficit of 7000 calories and this means that you lose 1kg because 1kg is approx. 7000 calories.
That’s the most of it. Seriously.
The rest is either philosophy, marketing or applicable to those who really want to get shredded. I don’t. What I want is to have some abs and a nice chest, that’s it. I just want to look aesthetically.
Macros Macros refer to micronutrition which is counting what you eat in terms of fat, protein, and carbs. Generally speaking, most of the people should eat 35% of carbs, 25% of fat and 40% of protein during low carb days and 50% carbs, 20% fat and 30% protein during high carb days. You want to aim at 5 low carb days and 2 high carb days per week (and those high carb days should be as far from each other as possible). During high carb days, you want to do more cardio too because you have more energy to burn. During low carb days, you eat more protein, meaning that it’s a good day to iron those muscles at the gym.
Micros I try to eat less simple carbs like sugar, bread and pasta and more complex carbs like vegetables. Your body needs to use more energy to break them down in your body, hence it consumes more energy to burn them. This also means that more calories are burned because your body needs to work more to digest them. Vegetables in general help you digest better and most importantly they have micronutrition that YOU NEED. Namely, they have vitamins, minerals, antioxidants and other good, healthy things that not only make you lean but also help you think faster. If you’re an entrepreneur, eat vegetables. If you aren’t – eat them too.
Timing You might have heard about intermittent fasting. It’s generally speaking proven that eating once per day helps you lose weight but it has one more advantage – it makes you eat less because you can’t physically eat as much in one meal as you’d have in 3 or 4 meals. We’re back at simple calories math. Intermittent fasting just works – and fasting works even better but it’s torture. I think what you want to do is adjust your food timing around your schedule and lifestyle – not the other way around. Sometimes I work 2 hours in the morning with a cup of coffee, then go to spend a few hours at the gym/swimming pool/sauna and then eat a big meal around 4 pm. I sleep like a baby a few hours after. Some days, however, I need to work more so I have a breakfast and lunch. Then before sleep, I eat a salad.
Supplements Just like the name says – they supplement and NOT replace your veggies. I take supplements to function better and I see the improvement, mainly in stabilizing my energy levels and with a better immune system. Every morning I take:
Some time ago, together with a few friends, we flew to Bangkok to go to something called Onsen. We went to the one in the district of Thonglor, called Let’s Relax Spa:
It’s a Japanese equivalent of a spa but it’s not really comparable. Once you get the key to your locker and you fully undress – you are ready to enter the garden of Eden.
It’s a complex of multiple saunas, baths, cleaning rooms, and relaxation rooms. Every one of them is an experience.
Baths range from extremally cold to extremally hot ones. If I remember correctly the hottest one was 45 degrees Celcius. You gradually switch from the coldest to the hottest baths respectively (or the other way around). In the coldest ones you sense your gut’s freezing, whereas in the hottest one you feel like your lever is boiling. You sense every single inner and outer part of your body.
Then saunas are similar to those in western spas but the relaxation rooms aren’t at all. Some relaxation rooms are just massive hot stones on the floor. You enter this room and lie on a warm rock – just like chameleons or turtles do. It’s mind-blowingly relaxing.
Then showers are not just showers – they are designed the way that you want to spend a good half an hour washing yourself.
Onsen is a very meditative experience. The time goes much slower there.
Important to mention is that the design of Onsen is minimalistic and I love minimalism. It’s just so aesthetic that you sense this constant flow of pleasure coming from this surrounding simplistic beauty all around.
I didn’t even relax as much as when I did my Vipassana – the silent meditation in a monk monastery in Kho Phangan. Mainly because in the spa there were no scorpions, spiders nor snakes – just myself.
You know those people who won’t show their creation to others until they think it’s perfect? I am the opposite.
One morning I woke up and had an urge to buy a green screen and record Tribal News. So, I did. The first episode looked ok-ish and we had a lot of typos in that video. The same with News.tribalmastermind.com portal. It took me 45 minutes to launch it and our developers literally couldn’t figure this out within 2 months (even though they can code in PHP, edit CSS and do other IT magic much better than me).
People often call me out on not checking my spelling. They often comment under my posts to correct me. That’s from Facebook:
and this one is from YouTube:
One of my friends often sends me back spelling corrections of my texts and adds that: “native speakers won’t find this text natural” etc.
I genuinely appreciate feedback from my friends as I follow the Japanese concept of Kaizen (改善), meaning constant improvement. I always look for ways to improve my life and business. In case of spelling mistakes, there are a few things I could do as a business owner (besides the fact that I’m already educating myself every day) – one is to always use Grammarly, another one is to hire a person to spell check my content…
I won’t do that however because everything I do is a work in progress.
It’s easy for me to launch and bootstrap a new portal fast (in an hour or so), see how it works, and develop on the idea further (or not). It’s very hard for me to plan how to do things for a long time and publish perfected ready products.
Writing, coding websites and recording videos makes it literally easier for me to organize all information flowing through my brain. I need to put my ideas out there (in one form or another) to get some clarity on what I’m actually trying to communicate. Often times, I don’t even know what I’m trying to achieve. I then simply put some video/website or project together and the idea gets clarified in my head.
I also need a lot of live feedback from users. I’m naturally an extrovert and working in front of a computer doesn’t help. Getting live feedback, comments and observing users’ traction and satisfaction is what drives me to develop my ideas further.
One of the examples was when I decided to write the book “How To Start A Digital Marketing Agency” and had offered it on a pre-order before I’ve written the first chapter. A lot of people pre-ordered this book and the money coming in from this project was a proof of concept to me. I also got tons of feedback from readers who’ve been commenting on what they like & dislike about the book. This instant feedback is important to me and makes me feel like my creations are alive and that there are real people using them. This also means more collaboration – I feel like I work on those projects with more people and sometimes I love playing in a sandbox with other kids. Besides, the social pressure of having something already launched is moderately edgy. Being on the edge makes me feel alive and unfortunately doing computer work feels the opposite.
I like starting in the middle and I am not a conscientious person. That’s my natural flow and this is how I work better. However, there is also the harsh reality of business and life that I need to face. Here is how I, personally, find the balance and integrity between my emotions and rationality:
I shouldn’t limit my natural flow as working in line with it provides me with a vast capacity of (creative) energy and other non-tangible mental resources (such as satisfaction from work). I should follow this flow to keep being creative, happy and productive
I need to be very careful around the spaces where a conscientious approach is crucial. This means:
Hiring conscientious people who understand that I’m the opposite of them – they shouldn’t bug me with details but they should take care of them themselves (and they should do it often). That’s necessary for the business because potential and current clients feel safe and trust your company when everything from marketing, through customer onboarding, all the way to the after purchase support appear congruent, stable and predictable. Since the last time I had to let some people go in my company, I’ve learned one thing: I need to clearly communicate to them that I am not conscientious, I don’t check details, I don’t like checking on people’ progress and I give them a lot of freedom within the company. This, however, doesn’t mean that I don’t see the end result. Quite the opposite – I see their impact on the business on the macro scale and I let them go when it’s not positive. (This is one of the reasons why I have so much success with working with people on the commission and why hiring on an hourly payroll is a tough challenge for me.) They also need to understand that every now and then I lock my self off in a shed and I’m not available for any communication (creative work in progress). As much as they find this annoying, those differences between our personalities are the key reason that I’m hiring them – they complement my disabilities (and I complement theirs).
I need to consciously abuse my mental capacity to some extent and force myself to be conscientious when it’s absolutely crucial ex. managing my transfers, managing my Facebook & Google Ads, analyzing conversion rates within my funnels (and optimizing it). Those kinds of tasks are extremally draining to me but I minimized them to the absolute minimum.
Now what’s important is that this is me and you’re (most likely) different. Identify areas of your natural flow and decide how you’re going to cope with those that you lack.
With all the free online content out there to educate yourself, why would you bother paying for information or training?
There are a couple ways to approach this as different people will obviously have different perspectives but there is a reason why all this free motivational and inspirational content is so readily available.
The easy answer is that it’s click bait and obviously intended to provide you general information to motivate you to purchase their product or service. This can be ok as it’s a common practice for marketing but when it comes to information, you must be sure to research on your own to validate the information you receive.
While the amount of free information is plentiful, there is something to be said about paying for information and training. Hands-on training and information regarding systems and processes are valuable so therefore it costs money as there was a significant amount investment regarding the time and money to develop it.
Generally paid information is usually better than free content as it is more structured with step by step instructions but you still must conduct your own research to make a decision that benefits you the most.
With that being said, if you’re just starting out then definitely research and absorb as much free content as possible with videos and podcasts. At some point, you will want to start making some small investments in books or low-cost training courses to move to an intermediate level. From there, you can then determine the type of advanced training and budget required to start taking significant actions towards your long-term goals.
Learn about these topics and much more here in today’s video: Free Online Content vs Paying for Information (+ How to Calculate ROI and Scaling Your Business)
It was my birthday but this was more than just another family trip!
Seven years ago, I traveled to the Kho Phi Phi Islands as a backpacker. Now I have an entirely different perspective on life coming back here this time with my family and my girlfriend.
The water is a crystal clear turquoise color with beautiful reefs and tropical fish. And we can’t forget about the wild monkeys. They are very friendly and enjoy feeding, sometimes at their own leisure as they can sometimes make themselves too comfortable, lol.
After the family trip, I will also spend some time alone to meditate at a retreat. During a personal battle with depression, I educated myself on different areas of fitness, psychology, and I eventually learned about meditation as well.
Additionally, I will share some tips on the most economical ways to withdraw money from banks and ATM’s when traveling internationally.
Learn about these topics and much more here in today’s video: Kho Phi Phi Islands Vlog – Family Trip for My Birthday (+ Saving Money Internationally on Bank Fees)
Is it really possible to find a mentor that can teach you how to build business and teach you life improvement techniques that guide you to improving yourself, your business, and your brand all in one person?
If you are branded and broke wondering what you need to change or who you need to become in order to make money consistently online and become a successful entrepreneur, then you are in the right place.
We cover topics including:
-Starting with the right mindset
-Formal education vs self-education
-Dealing with parents/friends projecting their beliefs and fears
-Which social media platforms are best for your brand
-Focused niche approach & when to scale your business
-360 degree marketing strategy
-Ways to connect with your audience
-Surrounding yourself with the right mentors/coaches
Learn about these topics and much more here in today’s video: Transform Your Inner Game – Dr. Tracy’s Insights to Improving Yourself, Your Business, & Your Brand (Interview with Dr. Tracy Timberlake)